The Military Child’s Experience

first_imgPhoto by Herald Post CC BY-NC 2.0The MFLN Family Development Early Intervention team recently interviewed Isaiah, the 14 year old son of an Army soldier, for his thoughts on being a military child.  This interview has been edited for length and clarity.What are some of your favorite memories as a military child? I would first like to say that I feel like a normal child. Being a military child has only truly affected me when my father is deployed. When he is home, we are like any other normal family.  One of my favorite memories is picking my father up after a long deployment.What, if anything, has been challenging?One area that has been challenging is having my father be deployed for extended periods of time. During these times I have concern for his safety and this has been the most challenging aspect of being a military child.Has your parent deployed while you were a child? How frequently?Yes, my father deploys often. He usually is gone at least once per year. I once went four straight years without him home for my birthday.If so…What did your parent(s) tell you about their deployment? My parents explained to me that my father deploys in order to protect the freedom we enjoy in the United States.How far in advance were you informed? There is no standard length of time, however, I have never felt surprised by his deployments. My parents are open with me about when he is leaving and we try to prepare together as a family.What would you suggest to other parents that need to prepare their children for an impending deployment?I suggest parents inform their children with enough time to mentally prepare for the deployment. This allows the children time to process what fears they may have about the deployment. After some time has been allowed to process the upcoming deployment, I suggest asking the children about their concerns so they have a chance to share their fears and the parents have a chance to ease those concerns.What were some of your concerns while your parent was deployed and what strategies did you use to manage these concerns?My main concern while my father is deployed is for his safety. I address this concern through prayer. While my dad is deployed I pray for his safety individually and we as a family pray for him together.How can parents support their children through all phases of a deployment (pre, during, and post)?Before deployment parents need to inform their children with enough time to process it. During deployment, parents should update the children about the deployed parent’s living conditions and personal safety. For example, during my father’s recent deployment my mom told me he was working in an office the majority of time. This helped ease my concern for his safety. He also took time to video chat and this helped us remain close. After deployment our family typically transitions very fast and we have not experienced any challenges since he has been home.Have you moved frequently? If so, what strategies do you use to get used to your new “home” and make new friends? What recommendations do you have for adults to help military children through these transitions?I have moved a few times, however, I have been in our current location for five years. Getting involved in church and sports has helped me meet new friends and feel a part of my new community.If you could talk to a younger version of yourself, what would you tell him or her about concerns or anxieties you might have had as a young child with military parents?I would tell younger children who feel anxious to trust in God. God has a plan for your life. God always has a plan.What are some of the things your teachers have done for you at school that has helped you adjust/cope with military family life?My school provided a military life counselor to help military children deal with deployments. I have not used this option however my younger siblings were highly involved with programs at their elementary school with their military life counselor.From your own experience growing up in a military family, what one piece of advice would you give to:Military parents who currently have young children? From my own experience growing up in a military family, one piece of advice I would give military parents who have young children is to get your children involved in activities they are interested in. Keeping them active will help keep their minds off of the deployment.Other children military or civilian?From my own experience growing up in a military family, one piece of advice I would give other military children is to help out your mom. She is forced to do many things on her own while Dad is away and she always appreciates extra help around the house.This post was edited by Robyn DiPietro-Wells & Michaelene Ostrosky, PhD, members of the MFLN FD Early Intervention team, which aims to support the development of professionals working with military families. Find out more about the Military Families Learning Network FD concentration on our website, on Facebook, on Twitter, and YouTube.last_img read more

The Leadership Playbook: But They Made President’s Club Last Year

first_imgThe salespeople that you are unhappy with now made President’s Club last year. Up until recently—very recently—they were doing what was required and expected of them. For years, what they are doing now was the right thing to do, and no one ever told them otherwise.While you are busy being unhappy with the fact that your people haven’t changed to meet your new requirements and expectations, they’re busy trying to figure out why everything has to be different now. You were both successful just a year ago doing things the way you had always done them.You Broke the ContractYou are struggling to help your people change because you broke the original contract. Even if you expected more in the past, your acceptance of the prior performance is part of that contract. I’m not talking about a formal, paper contract. I am talking about the real contract, the unspoken agreements that you made with your people.If you don’t believe that your sales force has the right to unilaterally change the contract, then you don’t have an absolute right to unilaterally change the contract either. This means that transformation requires a new contract. This means you need consent.New Terms and New ConditionsIf you need a new contract, you are going to have to explain why the new contract is necessary. You need to share those reasons, and you need to share what is at stake. If you are breaking one contract and replacing it with another, there needs to be a compelling reason why.If the conditions of employment and the requirements of the role need to be modified, you are establishing a new contract. The truth of the matter is that the individual members of your sales force are free to accept or reject the new terms and conditions. I’m not writing about compensation or other pecuniary matters here; I am talking about their deal when it comes to what is expected of them.New terms and new conditions have to be shared, sold, and agreed to.Some Will Refuse a New ContractThere are some who were comfortable with the old contract and have no interest in a new contract. They’d rather leave than change what they’ve always done—and often been rewarded for—in the past. There are some who will pretend to accept the contract, only to violate the letter and the spirit. This is part and parcel of transformations.That said, it is important to remember that you broke the contract and it is your job to win hearts and minds. It also means you need to remember that 1 comes before 2, and that transformation is 1,000 conversations and 10,000 actions. It’s a long game, and you have to play. Essential Reading! Get my first book: The Only Sale Guide You’ll Ever Need “The USA Today bestseller by the star sales speaker and author of The Sales Blog that reveals how all salespeople can attain huge sales success through strategies backed by extensive research and experience.” Buy Nowlast_img read more

Navjot Singh Sidhu accepts invite for Imran Khan’s swearing-in ceremony as Pakistan PM

first_imgPunjab cabinet minister Navjot Singh Sidhu has said that he would be attending the swearing-in ceremony of Imran Khan as Pakistan’s Prime Minister, slated for August 11Terming the invite by Imran Khan’s party Pakistan Tehreek-e-Insaf as a great honour for him, Mr. Sidhu said that he will accept the invitation.“It’s an honour and I accept the invitation. Men of genius are admired, men of power are feared, but men of character are trusted. Khan Sahab is a man of character and can be trusted,” Mr. Sidhu said in a statement.Pakistan Tehreek-e-Insaf party had on Wednesday said it will send formal invitations to former Indian cricketers Kapil Dev, Sunil Gavaskar, Navjot Singh Sidhu and Bollywood actor Aamir Khan for the ceremony.last_img read more

India Today @ the Olympics: Welcome to London, but keep your wallets handy!

first_imgHaving heard horror stories about the preparedness of the Heathrow airport to handle huge passenger traffic, I moved towards the immigration officer with trepidation.No doubt, the lady officer behind the immigration counter was curt and wanted to clear me quickly, but she had to fully satisfy herself that the finger-print matching was done properly. These days, with the clock ticking away fast for the opening ceremony on July 27, nothing can be left to chance if you are entering London.Past immigration, getting the media accreditation card was also not a problem at all. It really came as a surprise how all this was happening so smoothly as athletes had complained they had to face long waits.But the bigger surprise was how the transportation by tube, or the Heathrow Express, into Paddington in central London was even more efficient. The fear of getting lost by official cabs was not there and in less than half an hour, five Indian mediapersons were in central London. The surprise did not end there as shared cabs were there for onward travel from central London to Stratford, where the Olympic Park is situated.Cabbies the world over like to talk. Mike, as the 64-year-old wanted to be called, was no different. Once he got talking, it was hard to stop him.He spoke of everything — recession, high prices of tickets for the London Olympics, how Stratford was a dirty area and now had been transformed.But his anger was aimed towards the London organisers (LOCOG) as he felt the tickets were overpriced. “It’s just too much paying 150 pounds per ticket for athletics and I have been told I will be allowed inside the arena for just three hours. Imagine, I spend 1,000 pounds for the family and it seems like a waste,” Mike thundered.advertisementThe mood all over London, where the pound sterling is such a strong currency, is similar. The commoner does feel tickets have been overpriced and of the million tickets up for sale, many have disappeared!That’s a story very similar to our own Commonwealth Games, where the organising committee first printed lesser number of tickets, which resulted in empty stands.Our cabbie Mike then went on to thank us for bringing sunny weather to London. After heavy showers for weeks, bright sunshine saw Londoners strip their woolens and dress lightly. He was again cautious when he said, “Don’t be fooled, one can never say when it will again start raining.”Finally, when I reached Stratford, the virtual Olympic hub in east London, I got a glimpse of the Olympic Stadium. Security was tight and like the Delhi cops, they were shooing us away from vantage points, minus the abuses.Stratford in itself is a sleepy suburb. A new shopping complex and plenty of commercial malls have come up in a big way, but the crowds aren’t huge really. Locals who live closer to the Olympic venues aren’t the ones who will be filling in the arenas as tickets are priced high and had to be booked in advance.Inside the high security Olympic Stadium complex, which also houses the international broadcast centre and the main press centre, the final coat of paint is being applied. There is a busy look and security is very tight. From wallets to cell phones, cameras and even wrist watches, everything is put through the scanner.Yes, the security personnel are courteous, but they do look worried as the crowds have started trooping in. Food outlets are getting ready and junk food stalls are bound to do good business.However, the worrying factor is a high price one has to pay for communication. Unlike New Delhi’s Commonwealth Games, where the data cards were free, here there’s a 180 pound sterling charge, which comes to almost Rs 16,000 for the entire fortnight.If you want to extend your stay for the Paralympics, it costs a bigger bomb. Welcome to London!last_img read more

Caroline Wozniacki, Madison Keys to play clay-court final in Charleston

first_imgPrivate companies step in to help SEA Games hosting Hontiveros presses for security audit of national power grid Sports Related Videospowered by AdSparcRead Next Duterte wants probe of SEA Games mess Wozniacki will be making her third appearance in the Volvo Car Open final. The Dane lost in 2009, but took home the title two years later.Keys is into her second Volvo final, losing the 2015 championship against Angelique Kerber.FEATURED STORIESSPORTSPrivate companies step in to help SEA Games hostingSPORTSPalace wants Cayetano’s PHISGOC Foundation probed over corruption chargesSPORTSSingapore latest to raise issue on SEA Games food, logisticsNeither Wozniacki nor Keys has won this season, continuing a curious trend on the WTA of a different winner each week. So far, there have been no multiple winners through 14 tournaments.Wozniacki, the 2018 Australian Open champion, has now beaten Martic all six times they have played. LATEST STORIES SEA Games hosting troubles anger Duterte Philippine Arena Interchange inaugurated MOST READ PH underwater hockey team aims to make waves in SEA Games PLAY LIST 02:42PH underwater hockey team aims to make waves in SEA Games01:44Philippines marks anniversary of massacre with calls for justice01:19Fire erupts in Barangay Tatalon in Quezon City01:07Trump talks impeachment while meeting NCAA athletes02:49World-class track facilities installed at NCC for SEA Games02:11Trump awards medals to Jon Voight, Alison Krauss Last foul, dribble no-call make refs focus of Final Four Don’t miss out on the latest news and information. Panelo: Duterte ‘angry’ with SEA Games hosting hassles Caroline Wozniacki, from Denmark, returns a shot to Petra Martic, from Croatia, during their semifinal match at the Volvo Car Open tennis tournament in Charleston, S.C., Saturday, April 6, 2019. Wozniacki won 6-3, 6-4. (AP Photo/Mic Smith)CHARLESTON, S.C. — Caroline Wozniacki and Madison Keys will play for the title in Charleston after posting straight-set wins on Saturday.The fifth-seeded Wozniacki advanced with a 6-3, 6-4 victory over No. 16 seed Petra Martic of Croatia. The eighth-seeded Keys outlasted Monica Puig of Puerto Rico 6-4, 6-0, winning eight of the final nine games following a 70-minute rain delay at the season’s first clay-court tournament.ADVERTISEMENT Cayetano: Senate, Drilon to be blamed for SEA Games mess DA eyes importing ‘galunggong’ anew View commentslast_img read more